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A Lagos-based businesswoman, Toluwani Adeyemi, has set social media buzzing today after revealing why she walked away from what many would describe as a “perfect man.”
“I turned down a marriage proposal from the most handsome & caring man today, because his dıcķ is too small for me” the Nigerian lady said.
Speaking on Facebook this morning, Toluwani shared that she rejected a marriage proposal from the most caring, supportive, and hardworking partner she had ever dated simply because they were not sexually compatible.
According to her, love alone was not enough.
Toluwani wrote:
“When it comes to relationships and marriage, I believe our choices are VALID. People may not understand it, but you are the one who will live with your decision forever.”
She explained that her ex-boyfriend was one of the kindest men she had ever encountered.
“A kind partner is very hard to forget. Your kindness will make you always remembered,” she said.
She revealed that just a few days ago, she took him out for lunch at a restaurant in Lagos. Although she normally avoids mingling with exes after a breakup, she described him as someone very special to her.
“He is peaceful, loving, and extremely supportive. He showed me what true love really is. When I was sick, he would literally take me to his house and care for me. He drove me to the hospital, stayed with me during injections, bathed me, fed me, rubbed my stomach when I was in pain, and even sang me to sleep because he knows I love that. What did this man not do for me? He is and will always be a good man.”
However, despite all his good qualities, Toluwani said she ended the relationship because they were not sexually compatible.
“It was one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever made,” she admitted. “But I’m glad I did.”
According to her, the major issue was the size of his manhood, which she said she could not overlook in a marriage.
“I know it may sound crazy that I left a good man because of that, but when it comes to marriage, our choices are valid. I don’t believe in cheating. I don’t believe in sleeping with multiple men. Marriage is sacred to me. I couldn’t imagine managing something I’m not satisfied with for the rest of my life or being tempted into extra-marital affairs. Forever is too long.”
She added that while finding a good husband is difficult, finding someone who meets both emotional and physical needs can be even harder.
“You may find a man with all the good qualities kind, responsible, loving but he may not meet your sexual preferences. Then you may find one who meets your physical standards but is lazy, broke, proud, and always looking for a woman to borrow money from. Honestly, I’m tired,” she concluded.
Her post has since sparked heated debates online, with many Lagos residents divided over whether sexual compatibility should outweigh kindness and character in marriage decisions.
